How to recognize (and avoid) a womanizer
My girlfriend asked me recently, “Why would I fall for a man who is a womanizer... again?” Gullible, that’s why.
And optimistic. But we're getting smarter….
A womanizer is a man who likes to have multiple women that he flirts with, easily slipping into duplicity. The
difference between a womanizer and a normal gregarious single guy is that the womanizer keeps his
flirtations a secret, while the normal guy is open about his other female friends. A womanizer lies easily. A
normal guy doesn’t lie as easily and has more of a conscience.
A womanizer will tell a woman whatever he thinks she wants to hear, whether he is sincere or not. He wants
her to like him, at the cost of being real. If the woman is vulnerable to flattery, then she believes him because
she wants to believe him. A womanizer is usually a practiced charmer. He can spot a lonely woman a mile
away.
Here is how a womanizer’s brain works: (This conversation really took place.)
A womanizer friend of mine denied he was in love with a woman when he opened his emails to her with “Hi
Sweetie” and signed them off with “I love you.” “But I’m not in love with her,” he insisted. “She means nothing
to me.” I asked him why he would tell her he loved her if he didn’t. He answered that “I love you” is an
ambiguous phrase, it doesn’t mean anything.
When a womanizer is going for the blow job, he will tell her anything he thinks might work.
Another aspect of the womanizer is that he can quickly turn cold, and will drop a flirtation like a hot potato if
the woman catches on to his duplicity. He will accuse her of being a nut case and of liking him way more than
he liked her. He has no remorse. He didn’t really care that much for her anyway. Besides, he has back-ups…
always.
Can a womanizer be cured? Lots of women think they will be the one to cure a womanizer they love. It
depends first on whether or not the womanizer himself wants to grow up and get real. So if you find yourself
attracted to a womanizer, consider his age. If he’s over 35, he’s not likely to change. Don’t believe him. You
can have fun with him, but know that you will never really be able to know if he’s being real, or just telling you
what he thinks you want to hear. It’s okay to roll your eyes at him. He deserves it.
So how do we avoid attracting and being attracted to a womanizer? Get your self esteem from within and
above. Don’t look for validation that you are beautiful and desirable outside of yourself. If you see a man
who is attractive & charming but your radar sends up red flags, trust your instincts and just be amused and
entertained. Be glad you don’t fall for that anymore. And be grateful that this time you’re not going to waste
your precious time and energy chasing what isn’t real.
Genie Webster
artist & writer
Reno, NV
www.geniewebster.net
Here are other good articles on how to recognize a womanizer:
http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/the_inner_workings_of_a_womanizer
http://www.socyberty.com/Men/The-Womanizer-Complex.35306
Read Genie's article on Friends & Lovers
My girlfriend asked me recently, “Why would I fall for a man who is a womanizer... again?” Gullible, that’s why.
And optimistic. But we're getting smarter….
A womanizer is a man who likes to have multiple women that he flirts with, easily slipping into duplicity. The
difference between a womanizer and a normal gregarious single guy is that the womanizer keeps his
flirtations a secret, while the normal guy is open about his other female friends. A womanizer lies easily. A
normal guy doesn’t lie as easily and has more of a conscience.
A womanizer will tell a woman whatever he thinks she wants to hear, whether he is sincere or not. He wants
her to like him, at the cost of being real. If the woman is vulnerable to flattery, then she believes him because
she wants to believe him. A womanizer is usually a practiced charmer. He can spot a lonely woman a mile
away.
Here is how a womanizer’s brain works: (This conversation really took place.)
A womanizer friend of mine denied he was in love with a woman when he opened his emails to her with “Hi
Sweetie” and signed them off with “I love you.” “But I’m not in love with her,” he insisted. “She means nothing
to me.” I asked him why he would tell her he loved her if he didn’t. He answered that “I love you” is an
ambiguous phrase, it doesn’t mean anything.
When a womanizer is going for the blow job, he will tell her anything he thinks might work.
Another aspect of the womanizer is that he can quickly turn cold, and will drop a flirtation like a hot potato if
the woman catches on to his duplicity. He will accuse her of being a nut case and of liking him way more than
he liked her. He has no remorse. He didn’t really care that much for her anyway. Besides, he has back-ups…
always.
Can a womanizer be cured? Lots of women think they will be the one to cure a womanizer they love. It
depends first on whether or not the womanizer himself wants to grow up and get real. So if you find yourself
attracted to a womanizer, consider his age. If he’s over 35, he’s not likely to change. Don’t believe him. You
can have fun with him, but know that you will never really be able to know if he’s being real, or just telling you
what he thinks you want to hear. It’s okay to roll your eyes at him. He deserves it.
So how do we avoid attracting and being attracted to a womanizer? Get your self esteem from within and
above. Don’t look for validation that you are beautiful and desirable outside of yourself. If you see a man
who is attractive & charming but your radar sends up red flags, trust your instincts and just be amused and
entertained. Be glad you don’t fall for that anymore. And be grateful that this time you’re not going to waste
your precious time and energy chasing what isn’t real.
Genie Webster
artist & writer
Reno, NV
www.geniewebster.net
Here are other good articles on how to recognize a womanizer:
http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/the_inner_workings_of_a_womanizer
http://www.socyberty.com/Men/The-Womanizer-Complex.35306
Read Genie's article on Friends & Lovers
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